Older narcissistic mothers often use the natural limitations of aging to manipulate dramas, often by neglecting their health or by doing things they know will make them ill. I also don't think a child of an aging narcissist should have to take care of them.
When a care recipient exhibits narcissistic tendencies, it can be both frustrating and extremely painful for the person trying to provide care for them.

Improving Interactions with a Narcissist. "A narcissistic mother," she writes, "sees her daughter, more than her son, as a reflection and extension of herself rather than as a separate person with her own identity."

The Aging Narcissistic Parent. The aging narcissist, as you rightly say, fears aging – loss of control, and loss of people to control around them. My religious narcissistic mother was raised to believe 10% of your income should go to the church. But for the narcissistic personality, gratitude is difficult and aging tends to heighten feelings of vulnerability, fear, and rage. But in dealing with the aging narcissist, this normal sense of human compassion will be used as a tool by the narcissist to exploit and manipulate their well-meaning adult child.

The Aging Narcissist: Adding Dementia to the Mix Christine Hammond, MS, LMHC Christine Hammond is a leading mental health influencer, author, and guest speaker. A narcissistic parent will frequently overstep reasonable boundaries just to prove they can.

Bitterness Instead of maturing, mellowing, and gaining wisdom, narcissists, unless helped with treatment (which is unusual), remain emotionally stunted children whose deficient empathy and self-centered neediness intensify with aging. thank you for your "aging narcissist" post. thank you for your "aging narcissist" post.

The Aging Narcissist Dilemma ... With all those rapidly aging parents out there, a fair number of them are narcissists. The church is more than happy to put up with her for the money. The Plight of the Aging Narcissist 01/13/2014 04:37 pm ET Updated Mar 15, 2014 A narcissist's desire to be the center of attention and praise can create challenges in adjusting to the passing years. Whoever said they get better with age, is wrong. Throw the bum out like my mother threw me out. Some of their elderly friends and acquaintances (or, really, narcissistic supply and flying monkeys) will die before they do.


If anything, the aging narcissist increases his tantrums, raising both their frequency and volume. The Aging Narcissistic Parent (3) It is tempting to make excuses for the behavior of an aging mother or father who may be living on their own with failing health.