Like any child of narcissist, the sons of narcissistic mothers (SoNMs) will be treated as either the golden child, the scapegoat, or the forgotten child (see Roles in our page on The Narcissistic Family).It is often said or written that the golden child will become a narcissist themselves. As do sons and daughters of narcissistic fathers.

Sons of narcissistic mothers: I know you exist too. There are sons of narcissistic mothers who become narcissists and the two of them are fused in a highly pathological and destructive psychological duo. The Damage to Sons of Narcissistic Mothers. Sons of narcissistic mothers feel that they owe their mothers because they were constantly told so growing up. Sons of narcissistic mothers suffer damage to their autonomy, self-worth, and future relationships with women. Image is everything to the narcissistic mother. They will most likely grow up trying to please their mothers, even if this isn’t actually possible. The forgotten sons of narcissistic mothers probably grow up the healthiest of … This may be because she’s more likely to idealize and aggrandize him rather than compete, as she would with a daughter. And my experience, that I could write about, is of being the daughter of a narcissistic mother. Because appearances are all important, their children must look and act … Like sons of narcissistic fathers, sons of narcissistic mothers don’t feel loved for who they are, but only for what they can do for their parent’s approval. I think if I had my time again I would have made this website more general: children of narcissistic parents maybe. These mothers appear to adore their sons over their daughters an shower them with all of the attention and adulation. But it is what it is. THE IMPACT OF A NARCISSISTIC MOTHER ON HER SONS . Narcissistic mothers are very controlling, especially over their sons’ career choices. She uses her sons to replicate her perfect image—the self she wants the world to see. Other sons may repeat their maternal relationship with women who are demanding, controlling, or abusive. Narcissists lack empathy and the ability to nurture their children. Sons of narcissistic mothers have higher rates of narcissism.
The forgotten sons. Narcissistic mothers often have an iron hold on their sons.

The only efforts narcissistic mothers support are the ones they initiate or those that make them look good.