My mother is a covert narcissist, and I can so relate to your pain.

This means she uses one child as a scapegoat and the other as the perfect child. An overt narcissist is someone who openly states, “I’m great, I only deserve the best, nobody is as great as me,” and so forth. Hell, even I didn't know what was going on until I was about 24 and had been living out of home for a couple of years. She takes it as a rejection of her. Harsh maybe, truthful, you bet. People have no idea what she is like or what I have suffered. This sibling tries desperately to please their mother … This is my “no punches pulled” list to help you spot the signs of a covert narcissistic mother. The covert narcissistic mother can’t support her daughter’s need for growing independence. This creates competition within the mind of the flawed child. One thing the covert narcissist type of mother does to her child is devaluation or triangulation. They are fairly easy to spot.A covert narcissist is different. Why would I want to call out these characteristics?